Vinegar, honey, and flies.

You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Recently I’d had enough of the rude and bossy attitude of the leader of a project and reminded her of the old adage about it being easier to catch flies with honey than with vinegar. I had nothing to lose as a volunteer, and for the sake of the project, the point had to be made. She had been rubbing a lot of the volunteers up the wrong way.

As someone who needs the support and input of others to get things done, you may want to ask yourself how you usually go about catching flies, with vinegar or with honey? Perhaps you’ve never thought about it. Perhaps you should. Some people think that a “bossy” attitude is necessary to establish their authority—they’re wrong. They’re trying to catch flies with vinegar. People (employees, co-workers, and customers) don’t like this and, while appearing to be cooperating, may be holding back and only cooperating to the bare minimum.

People prefer to work with and do business with people they like, people who understand how to catch flies with honey. This doesn’t mean being a pushover; it just means being pleasant, reasonable, and understanding. People will cooperate and produce in ways you didn’t even expect if they’re enticed with honey. I think you know what I mean.

Do you know someone who could use this reminder? For the sake of all concerned, but keeping in mind the politics of the situation, find a way to get the message to them